Used with permission from the Forever Young blog

What are you celebrating this Memorial Day weekend? I am sure that you will be celebrating a three day weekend. You will probably be celebrating the coming of summer (at least those of us in the Northwest.) What I am wondering, is when I mention Memorial Day do you think of the purpose for this holiday?

Memorial Day, formerly called Decoration Day, dates back to May 30, 1868 when it was enacted to honor Union soldiers that died in the Civil War. The 30th of May was set aside as a time to visit and decorate the grave to honor those that had fallen. “Many people observe this holiday by visiting cemeteries and memorials. A national moment of remembrance takes place at 3 p.m. Eastern Time. Another tradition is to fly the flag of the United States at half-staff from dawn until noon local time. Volunteers often place American flags on each gravesite at National Cemeteries. Many Americans also use Memorial Day to honor other family members who have died.” (www.wikipedia.com, Memorial Day)

It was after World War I that the commemoration was expanded to include all fallen soldiers from any war or military action. The alternative name, Memorial Day, was first used in 1882 and would be more commonly used after World War II. It became the official name by Federal Law in 1967. The Uniform Holiday Bill passed on June 28, 1968 moved Memorial Day (President’s Day and Veterans Day) to a fixed Monday to allow for a three day weekend. Memorial Day has been celebrated on the last Monday of May since the law took effect in 1971.

As we consider the significance of Memorial Day (and several other National Holidays) for the follower of Jesus, it is hard to find a Biblical parallel; however, the Scripture do have much to say about “remembering” the past. In each of the passages that come to mind, we are called to remember God’s provision and deliverance (Deuteronomy 8 and Psalm 106), and even the leaders who have modeled a Godly life (Hebrews 13:7). We also know that all of the Old Testament Feasts served as a reminder of Jehovah’s provision in the past while pointing to a future fulfillment in the coming Messiah. Even the New Testament celebration of the Lord ’s Table (based on the Passover feast) remembers the work of Christ on the Cross while looking forward to His return (1 Corinthians 11:26). And in the seventh verse of Romans 13 the Bible also speaks of the importance for you as a follower of Christ to participate in holidays like Memorial and Veteran days. “”Pay to all what is owed to them: taxes to whom taxes are owed, revenue to whom revenue is owed, respect to whom respect is owed, honor to whom honor is owed.” Romans 13:7

The purpose for this three day weekend is not to celebrate the beginning of summer, or even a time to get away, but to remember those whom have given their lives for our great country. You can honor those whom have given their lives by offering a prayer of thanks at one of your family meal times. It would be appropriate to send an email to a military widow(er), or parent, thanking them for the sacrifice of their spouse/ child. It would be even better to take a family field trip Monday to visit a local veterans’ cemetery. Memorial Day is a time to remember those that have given their lives for our country.

-Pastor Joe Parkinson

Anne Marie Ezzo says, “After reading Pastor Joe’s article on ‘fear’, it made me think about how often we, especially as parents can operate out of fear. Fear that our children won’t love us if we have boundaries or need to correct them. Fear that ‘what if I’m not doing it right?’ Oh, the list of ‘what ifs’ can be so long, it can immobilize us from doing what is right before God.  2 Timothy 1:7 says , “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind.” Some translations read: ’self-control’ … there is that word again! The very thing as parents we work so diligently at with our children, as a child of God, we need to exercise that as well. Plus as Pastor Joe shares … “there is no fear in love” … we want our children to love us, so we can demonstrate what perfect love is to them, by exercising that ‘love, power & self-control’ the Lord has given us. Be encouraged, keep pressing on and yes, in ‘due season you will reap a beautiful harvest’ … enjoy the following:”

Does fear keep you from being everything that God wants you to be?  If you are like most people, your answer would be yes.  The only difference between us would be the degree of fear that limits each of us.  The Encarta Dictionary uses four phrases to define fear:  feelings of anxiety; frightening thoughts; reverence and worry.  It is the fourth phrase that the Apostle John addresses in his letter.  John reminds us of our need to grow in our understanding of God’s love for us.

We need to begin by saying that not all fear is bad or even sinful.  The emotion of fear is a God given emotion that heightens our senses and awareness in situations of anticipated danger.  The attitude of fear, one of reverence, is also good as it is used in the Bible to describe our attitude toward God.  John is concerned with the fourth type of fear, that of worry. One of the biggest barriers in the Christian life is this last type of fear. This type of fear in many ways is the opposite of faith (trust).  While faith sees whatcan be done, fear focuses on what cannot!

The Bible warns the follower of Christ about this barrier.  The writer of Proverbs warns us against being controlled by what others think, rather than what God thinks.  This is called the fear of man.  “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” Proverbs 29:25 The apostle Paul warns us against the cousin of fear, worry, which encourages followers of Christ to pray.  “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6 John warns the follower of Christ not to compromise their special relationship with Jesus Christ.  Unfortunately, too many followers of Christ allow fear to limit their relationship with God.  John writes, “There is no fear in love.” 1 John 4:18 The literal word order in this sentence is “fear there is not in love.” The beauty and power of what John is trying to get us to understand is that if you are a born again Christian you are loved by God and have nothing to fear!  John continues in verse 18, “But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18

Fear manifests its control in our lives in a number of different ways.  The obvious is when it keeps us from living by faith.  The times that we are called to trust that God will go with us yet we refuse because we are not sure that we can trust God.  Fear can also cause us to overload our schedules because we are trying to make everyone happy, especially God.  Fear is also at work when there is no satisfaction in our service because we feel it is not good enough.  Fear can rob us of the joy of being ourselves because we are always restrained by what others might think.  Fear also keeps us from saying “No” because of how others will think of us.

The antidote is to immerse yourself in God’s love for you.  It is only through a proper understanding of your relationship with God that you can, as John writes, drive fear out of your life.  If you are struggling with fear, can I encourage you to take a moment and prayerfully read I John 4:9-19.  As you read these verses, notice how much God loves you!

-Pastor Joe Parkinson



It is truly an amazing thing to be a parent. It may not always feel amazing, but it always is amazing. I’ve lately been looking into my family heritage and I’ve been touched by the things I’ve found. I’ve found Christians and pagans, rulers and slaves, individuals who changed the world and others who let the world change them. I’ve been struck by the variety and also the similarities. Probably few of those I have researched ever imagined that some quirky descendant hundreds of years after them would be reading their life story on Wikipedia! That’s one of those amazing things about having children: Legacy.

Truly the Psalmist said it aright when he penned that, “Sons are a heritage from the Lord” and they are “like arrows in the hands of a warrior.” After all, what exactly do arrows in the hands of a warrior do but go beyond that warrior? They shoot from the warrior’s position and accomplish what the warrior cannot from his location. They are more than knife or sword that stay with the warrior. They fly from the hands reaching places we cannot reach and perhaps never even imagined.

I don’t know about you, but that’s what I want for my children. I want to them to go beyond me, to accomplish more than I have, to experience more of all God has for them. But why is it that so many only seem to repeat history? I’m afraid a good amount of the responsibility could go to the warrior. After all, he was the one who was aiming and shooting. While children eventually have all the responsibility for what they chose to do in life, the warrior has some responsibilities while the arrow is still in his hands!

The Arrow. While we are not expecting to release perfect “arrows” or children, we need to be inspecting them and, to the best of our ability, be smoothing out the barbs and flaws we can see. Of course, we are not God and we are dependent on Him to do the heart-work in our children, but we are responsible to help our children in being prepared to fly — not only in the natural areas, but also the spiritual. We need to be the ones instructing our children in righteousness. We need to be seeking the Lord, listening for Him to tell us what He wants us to work on with our children. When my arrows fly off the bow, I want them to fly straight, not wavering because they were not smoothed well by me.

The Target. Where are our arrows flying to? Are we just releasing them without aiming them, hoping they will hit something … anything? We need to be training and encouraging our children in the direction they are headed. Again, this needs to be our focus not just in the natural, but also the spiritual. Does your child have a career aspiration you can help him/her develop? Does your child have a ministry calling you can help him/her launch? What are your child’s hopes for the future? What are his/her spiritual gifts? Your children will go far when they are released with purpose!

The Shot. When shooting a bow and arrow, we must have sure footing, careful aim, strength to go the distance and the skill to let go at the proper time. What is the foundation you are standing on as you shoot your arrows? When we have a foundation other than the Word of God, we will be shooting in vain. What is your aim? Speak words of life and hope over your children. Do you have the strength? When we are too busy and distracted to take aim and shoot with purpose and strength, I’m not sure we can expect to hit the target or even send the arrow flying. Are you ready to release? Releasing either too soon or too late will negatively affect your arrow’s flight. Release too soon and it won’t fly far. Release too late and it will drop at your feet.

Yes, being a parent is amazing. So much hangs on what we do. There is so much purpose and calling locked up in each child and the Lord calls upon us to help release it! I want my children to be instruments of change in the world. That’s what legacy is all about. So fly, my arrows, FLY!

SCRIPTURE:

“For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just.” Genesis 18:19

FUN IDEA OF THE QUARTER:

Okay, I know the idea of a Family Night has been hammered into our American thinking, but it’s an idea that is so good, it deserves revisiting. Sometimes, things get so hectic that it can be the first thing to be sacrificed, but we need to stand our ground and refuse to allow it to be stolen from us! Family Nights are a vital time to reconnect and spend time in camaraderie.

We recently found out that one of our children hates to play games! We were astounded as this is what our family time has generally revolved around. Although we will never give up playing games (if we gave up everything one member of the family dislikes, we’d never do anything!), she can look forward to having an equal opportunity to choose what we do – and she can learn to cope with the likes of others!

Try fishing around for new ideas for your Family Nights if they have gotten a bit stale. Find a new card game on the internet for free or purchase a new board game. Try getting together with another family for games once in a while. What about a walk around the neighborhood followed by a fun movie? Can you bake together? Brainstorm ideas as a family! And have FUN!!!

Permission granted by Tim and Ami Loper of Miracle Books.

The new Toddlerhood Transition workbooks are now in the GFI warehouse and available for classes. The introductory price is $10.95. The introductory price for the newly released nine-part Toddlerhood Transition DVD series with two workbooks is $99.95 (The introductory sale is good through January 31, 2010. Save an additional five percent by ordering on line.)

We’re also in the process of revamping the GFI Leader’s Place. This is where leaders and facilitators can go to find additional class ideas, handouts, charts, forms, video run times, session summaries and sample clips from each of the nine Toddlerhood sessions. Do you have a question relating to the course work or from a student that you would like some help with or a second opinion? Our ministry support staff is available to leaders and would like to help. We’ll do everything we can to provide a timely and concise answer. Enjoy the New Year and your new ‘Toddlerhood Transition’ class.

December 12, 2009

Although the 2009 ‘Winter sale’ is over, the two family resources highlighted during the Christmas season continue to offer some great family values. We will continue to promote both over the next couple of weeks. First, there is the Mom’s Notes bookstore. We personally believe this is the best “little bookstore” on the Worldwide Web for at least two reasons. First, each book is reviewed for compatibility with the GFI curriculum and moral philosophy. That means you will not have to worry about any inappropriate content passing in front of the eyes of your children. Second, it provides a wide range of spiritual resources for all ages, from devotional books for your toddler to spiritual-life reading for Mom and Dad, Grandma and Grandpa. Books always make a great gift.

Our second site is not tied to the GFI ministry per se, although it is very much tied to our hearts. Martin Chalk is a Growing Kids’ Dad, friend and more influentially, the worship leader at our church. His music is heard in churches all over the world. For us, each service is like going to a full ‘concert’ of praise and worship. His newest CD, ‘Always’ is now available.We know styles of music are a matter of personal preference and we respect different taste in styles, but for the Ezzos, Martin puts it all together beautifully. Visit Martin Here. www.MartinChalk.com