Anne Marie Ezzo says, “After reading Pastor Joe’s article on ‘fear’, it made me think about how often we, especially as parents can operate out of fear. Fear that our children won’t love us if we have boundaries or need to correct them. Fear that ‘what if I’m not doing it right?’ Oh, the list of ‘what ifs’ can be so long, it can immobilize us from doing what is right before God.  2 Timothy 1:7 says , “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind.” Some translations read: ‘self-control’ … there is that word again! The very thing as parents we work so diligently at with our children, as a child of God, we need to exercise that as well. Plus as Pastor Joe shares … “there is no fear in love” … we want our children to love us, so we can demonstrate what perfect love is to them, by exercising that ‘love, power & self-control’ the Lord has given us. Be encouraged, keep pressing on and yes, in ‘due season you will reap a beautiful harvest’ … enjoy the following:”

Does fear keep you from being everything that God wants you to be?  If you are like most people, your answer would be yes.  The only difference between us would be the degree of fear that limits each of us.  The Encarta Dictionary uses four phrases to define fear:  feelings of anxiety; frightening thoughts; reverence and worry.  It is the fourth phrase that the Apostle John addresses in his letter.  John reminds us of our need to grow in our understanding of God’s love for us.

We need to begin by saying that not all fear is bad or even sinful.  The emotion of fear is a God given emotion that heightens our senses and awareness in situations of anticipated danger.  The attitude of fear, one of reverence, is also good as it is used in the Bible to describe our attitude toward God.  John is concerned with the fourth type of fear, that of worry. One of the biggest barriers in the Christian life is this last type of fear. This type of fear in many ways is the opposite of faith (trust).  While faith sees whatcan be done, fear focuses on what cannot!

The Bible warns the follower of Christ about this barrier.  The writer of Proverbs warns us against being controlled by what others think, rather than what God thinks.  This is called the fear of man.  “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” Proverbs 29:25 The apostle Paul warns us against the cousin of fear, worry, which encourages followers of Christ to pray.  “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6 John warns the follower of Christ not to compromise their special relationship with Jesus Christ.  Unfortunately, too many followers of Christ allow fear to limit their relationship with God.  John writes, “There is no fear in love.” 1 John 4:18 The literal word order in this sentence is “fear there is not in love.” The beauty and power of what John is trying to get us to understand is that if you are a born again Christian you are loved by God and have nothing to fear!  John continues in verse 18, “But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18

Fear manifests its control in our lives in a number of different ways.  The obvious is when it keeps us from living by faith.  The times that we are called to trust that God will go with us yet we refuse because we are not sure that we can trust God.  Fear can also cause us to overload our schedules because we are trying to make everyone happy, especially God.  Fear is also at work when there is no satisfaction in our service because we feel it is not good enough.  Fear can rob us of the joy of being ourselves because we are always restrained by what others might think.  Fear also keeps us from saying “No” because of how others will think of us.

The antidote is to immerse yourself in God’s love for you.  It is only through a proper understanding of your relationship with God that you can, as John writes, drive fear out of your life.  If you are struggling with fear, can I encourage you to take a moment and prayerfully read I John 4:9-19.  As you read these verses, notice how much God loves you!

-Pastor Joe Parkinson



It is truly an amazing thing to be a parent. It may not always feel amazing, but it always is amazing. I’ve lately been looking into my family heritage and I’ve been touched by the things I’ve found. I’ve found Christians and pagans, rulers and slaves, individuals who changed the world and others who let the world change them. I’ve been struck by the variety and also the similarities. Probably few of those I have researched ever imagined that some quirky descendant hundreds of years after them would be reading their life story on Wikipedia! That’s one of those amazing things about having children: Legacy.

Truly the Psalmist said it aright when he penned that, “Sons are a heritage from the Lord” and they are “like arrows in the hands of a warrior.” After all, what exactly do arrows in the hands of a warrior do but go beyond that warrior? They shoot from the warrior’s position and accomplish what the warrior cannot from his location. They are more than knife or sword that stay with the warrior. They fly from the hands reaching places we cannot reach and perhaps never even imagined.

I don’t know about you, but that’s what I want for my children. I want to them to go beyond me, to accomplish more than I have, to experience more of all God has for them. But why is it that so many only seem to repeat history? I’m afraid a good amount of the responsibility could go to the warrior. After all, he was the one who was aiming and shooting. While children eventually have all the responsibility for what they chose to do in life, the warrior has some responsibilities while the arrow is still in his hands!

The Arrow. While we are not expecting to release perfect “arrows” or children, we need to be inspecting them and, to the best of our ability, be smoothing out the barbs and flaws we can see. Of course, we are not God and we are dependent on Him to do the heart-work in our children, but we are responsible to help our children in being prepared to fly — not only in the natural areas, but also the spiritual. We need to be the ones instructing our children in righteousness. We need to be seeking the Lord, listening for Him to tell us what He wants us to work on with our children. When my arrows fly off the bow, I want them to fly straight, not wavering because they were not smoothed well by me.

The Target. Where are our arrows flying to? Are we just releasing them without aiming them, hoping they will hit something … anything? We need to be training and encouraging our children in the direction they are headed. Again, this needs to be our focus not just in the natural, but also the spiritual. Does your child have a career aspiration you can help him/her develop? Does your child have a ministry calling you can help him/her launch? What are your child’s hopes for the future? What are his/her spiritual gifts? Your children will go far when they are released with purpose!

The Shot. When shooting a bow and arrow, we must have sure footing, careful aim, strength to go the distance and the skill to let go at the proper time. What is the foundation you are standing on as you shoot your arrows? When we have a foundation other than the Word of God, we will be shooting in vain. What is your aim? Speak words of life and hope over your children. Do you have the strength? When we are too busy and distracted to take aim and shoot with purpose and strength, I’m not sure we can expect to hit the target or even send the arrow flying. Are you ready to release? Releasing either too soon or too late will negatively affect your arrow’s flight. Release too soon and it won’t fly far. Release too late and it will drop at your feet.

Yes, being a parent is amazing. So much hangs on what we do. There is so much purpose and calling locked up in each child and the Lord calls upon us to help release it! I want my children to be instruments of change in the world. That’s what legacy is all about. So fly, my arrows, FLY!

SCRIPTURE:

“For I have chosen him, so that he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just.” Genesis 18:19

FUN IDEA OF THE QUARTER:

Okay, I know the idea of a Family Night has been hammered into our American thinking, but it’s an idea that is so good, it deserves revisiting. Sometimes, things get so hectic that it can be the first thing to be sacrificed, but we need to stand our ground and refuse to allow it to be stolen from us! Family Nights are a vital time to reconnect and spend time in camaraderie.

We recently found out that one of our children hates to play games! We were astounded as this is what our family time has generally revolved around. Although we will never give up playing games (if we gave up everything one member of the family dislikes, we’d never do anything!), she can look forward to having an equal opportunity to choose what we do – and she can learn to cope with the likes of others!

Try fishing around for new ideas for your Family Nights if they have gotten a bit stale. Find a new card game on the internet for free or purchase a new board game. Try getting together with another family for games once in a while. What about a walk around the neighborhood followed by a fun movie? Can you bake together? Brainstorm ideas as a family! And have FUN!!!

Permission granted by Tim and Ami Loper of Miracle Books.

The new Toddlerhood Transition workbooks are now in the GFI warehouse and available for classes. The introductory price is $10.95. The introductory price for the newly released nine-part Toddlerhood Transition DVD series with two workbooks is $99.95 (The introductory sale is good through January 31, 2010. Save an additional five percent by ordering on line.)

We’re also in the process of revamping the GFI Leader’s Place. This is where leaders and facilitators can go to find additional class ideas, handouts, charts, forms, video run times, session summaries and sample clips from each of the nine Toddlerhood sessions. Do you have a question relating to the course work or from a student that you would like some help with or a second opinion? Our ministry support staff is available to leaders and would like to help. We’ll do everything we can to provide a timely and concise answer. Enjoy the New Year and your new ‘Toddlerhood Transition’ class.

December 12, 2009

Although the 2009 ‘Winter sale’ is over, the two family resources highlighted during the Christmas season continue to offer some great family values. We will continue to promote both over the next couple of weeks. First, there is the Mom’s Notes bookstore. We personally believe this is the best “little bookstore” on the Worldwide Web for at least two reasons. First, each book is reviewed for compatibility with the GFI curriculum and moral philosophy. That means you will not have to worry about any inappropriate content passing in front of the eyes of your children. Second, it provides a wide range of spiritual resources for all ages, from devotional books for your toddler to spiritual-life reading for Mom and Dad, Grandma and Grandpa. Books always make a great gift.

Our second site is not tied to the GFI ministry per se, although it is very much tied to our hearts. Martin Chalk is a Growing Kids’ Dad, friend and more influentially, the worship leader at our church. His music is heard in churches all over the world. For us, each service is like going to a full ‘concert’ of praise and worship. His newest CD, ‘Always’ is now available.We know styles of music are a matter of personal preference and we respect different taste in styles, but for the Ezzos, Martin puts it all together beautifully. Visit Martin Here. www.MartinChalk.com

One of the underlying thoughts we attempt to communicate within the GFI community is the importance of your WorldView …. beginning in Prep. for Parenting and carrying it through all the curricula. Years ago we were introduced to Christian Overman and his book  Assumptions that Affect our Lives, a wonderful resource to help an individual understand this concept of ‘worldview’.  In reading Dr. Overman’s thoughts below, I am reminded that no matter what we are doing, even those daily, seemingly mundane tasks of homemaking, going off to the workplace, or one more time instructing our children in something we thought was taken care of … when we keep that Kingdom perspective, that all we do is important to God and for His glory. Trust the following will be an encouragement to you as well. Do not grow weary ….

Anne Marie Ezzo

If we are currently living within the Kingdom of God, and the rule of the Creator-Sustainer is a present reality, why did Christ teach us to pray,“Thy Kingdom come…?” (Matt. 6:10)

Describing the Kingdom of God is like the blind men describing an elephant. One man touches an ear and declares, “the elephant is like a fan!” Another touches the tail and shouts, “the elephant is like a rope!” It depends on which aspect of the elephant one touches.

When it comes to the Kingdom of God, there is both a present expression of the Kingdom and a coming expression. They are not exactly the same expressions. To put it in the context of Matthew 13, the coming Kingdom is “the Kingdom without weeds.” The Kingdom where “all things that offend and those who practice lawlessness” have been removed (Matt. 13:41). Until then, God’s present Kingdom contains weeds.

Even so, it is still His Kingdom, with or without weeds. In its current state of disrepair, the whole “field” of planet Earth, and all that it contains, including every airplane flying overhead, is the Creator-Sustainer’s own possession (Psalm 24:1).

Does this mean Jesus owns everything in the Boeing Company, and the Boeing manufacturing plant just miles from my home lies within the realm of Christ’s rule, under the jurisdiction of His present Kingdom? I say, “yes.” Jesus is Lord of all (Acts 10:36), whether the Boeing Company recognizes Him as such or not!

Why does understanding this matter? The ramifications for our everyday work are enormous. It means there is no type of earthly work that can be done outside the present Kingdom of God, because the jurisdiction of Christ’s rule extends over every human activity, and there is no earthly occupation that takes place outside the borders of the King’s domain.

It gets very practical. If I’m sweeping floors, I’m sweeping part of His Kingdom. If I am building airplanes, I am molding and shaping His Kingdom’s “stuff” into machines that fly through His Kingdom’s sky. This gives building airplanes a sublime dimension, and it gives all work an awesome significance: It is His world we are working in, and His stuff we are working with.

But if I limit my understanding of the Kingdom of God to only its coming pristine expression, and I fail to appreciate its present (albeit contaminated) expression, I’ll tend to focus on the age to come, and miss the significance of the here-and-now, including the full significance of everyday work in God’s present Kingdom. Including building airplanes.

by Chris Overman
Worldview Matters[TM]
www.biblicalworldview.com

I am wondering how many Christian kids could answer the question asked by a non-believing friend; “What makes Christianity different than any other religion? Why should I believe that the Bible is Gods’ book or in Jesus is God?”

Over summer vacation several of the books I read dealt with real cultural influences that have deceived a large number of followers of Jesus. The one I want to mention, “Already Gone” by Ken Ham and Britt Beemer, looks at why your kids will quit church and what you can do to stop it. This must read is a well done survey on why kids from solid Bible believing churches walk away from their faith. As I was reading this book I was reminded of what the Apostle Peter recorded in his first epistle, “But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect,” 1 Peter 3:15 NIV.

While there is a ton of practical truth in this verse, I want to focus in on one area this week. It is the phrase, ”Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone.” Now stop and take a moment to reread that phrase slowly. The force of what Peter writes reinforces your need to be prepared to share your faith with others. What Ham and Beemer so powerfully communicate is that our kids are unprepared to defend their faith and as a result they are being swept away. What is more startling is that out of the 1000 kids surveyed only 11% walked away in college. Their survey revealed 40% began to doubt in Middle School and 43% in High School. If their assessment is correct, that means that we are loosing our kids while they are in church and living at home! They go on to make some other incredible observations about how we are failing to prepare our children to live in a post Christian culture. The main emphasis is addressed by the apostle Peter, the need to be prepared to defend their faith.

Let’s face it; it is more challenging to live for Christ in our culture today then when you were growing up. I would suggest that it is more difficult for kid’s today then for any recent generation. Not only have the issues like sexual immorality and alternative lifestyle become the norm, kids today also must battle tremendous temptations and cultural struggles at ages you never did.

While we need to protect our kids from these influences, we also need to prepare them to “give an answer for the hope that lies within them.” This is called apologetics, the study of how to defend the Christian faith. This was brought home to me this past week as we dropped our oldest child off at Washington State University. While I was sitting through an orientation for parents, I was reminded at the cultural conditioning that is happening all around us to adopt the culture’s values.

So what is the solution? While there are no guarantees, I would suggest two primary paths of action. First, is for you to live to the standard. If your life does not sell your kids on the necessity and viability of Christianity, why should they listen to anyone else?

Second, there are many ways to help your kids be prepared to address cultural issues. Don’t be afraid to discuss the issues before they become issues. Then be prepared to walk them through them. Your kids deserve more than a “no.” Help them to understand the moral reason why. You should also make solid age appropriate books and materials available to them.

This generation of kids needs to be more prepared apologetically prepared then any previous generation for the last 80 years! They will make it with our help!

-Pastor Joe Parkinson