While GKGW covers many aspects of fatherhood in the “Father’s Mandate” thought it might be interesting to find out how and why the practice of celebrating Father’s Day began. In reading through the history, you will see the father that prompted the day, at least in recent history, reflects the heart of our eternal Father … love, care, sacrifice, provision. Dads in a day and age where your role as both husband and father is often belittled and mocked please remember, in our Father’s Kingdom your position is of the utmost importance. Thank you for being a godly Dad not only for your family but also for all those around who observe the love & devotion given to your family.

Happy Father’s Day …

Love,

Gary & Anne Marie

The Brief History of Father’s Day in the United States

There are two stories of when the first Father’s Day was celebrated. According to some accounts, the first Father’s Day was celebrated in Washington state on June 19, 1910. A woman by the name of Sonora Smart Dodd came up with the idea of honoring and celebrating her father while listening to a Mother’s Day sermon at church in 1909. She felt as though mothers were getting all the acclaim while fathers were equally deserving of a day of praise.

Sonora’s dad was quite a man. William Smart, a veteran of the Civil War, was left a widower when his wife died while giving birth to their sixth child. He went on to raise the six children by himself on their small farm in Washington. To show her appreciation for all the hard work and love William gave to her and her siblings, Sonora thought there should be a day to pay homage to him and other dads like him. She initially suggested June 5th, the anniversary of her father’s death to be the designated day to celebrate Father’s Day, but due to some bad planning, the celebration in Spokane, Washington was deferred to the third Sunday in June.

The other story of the first Father’s Day in America happened all the way on the other side of the country in Fairmont, West Virginia on July 5, 1908. Grace Golden Clayton suggested to the minister of the local Methodist church that they hold services to celebrate fathers after a deadly mine explosion killed 361 men.

While Father’s Day was celebrated locally in several communities across the country, unofficial support to make the celebration a national holiday began almost immediately. William Jennings Bryant was one of its staunchest proponents. In 1924, President Calvin “Silent Cal” Coolidge recommended that Father’s Day become a national holiday. But no official action was taken.

In 1966, Lyndon B. Johnson, through an executive order, designated the third Sunday in June as the official day to celebrate Father’s Day. However, it wasn’t until 1972, during the Nixon administration, that Father’s Day was officially recognized as a national holiday.

Father’s Day Around The World

Other countries also picked up on the idea of Father’s Day. While many followed suit by celebrating it on the third Sunday in June, some decided to honor dad on different dates. So, no matter where you live, be sure to honor & remember your Dad. [used with permission from The Art of Manliness – A Brief History of Father's Day by Brett & Kate McKay]

Sleep props come in all shapes and sizes.  You’ve done a wonderful job making sure that your baby hasn’t become dependent on being rocked or nursed to sleep.  Now use those same ideas when thinking about “where” he sleeps.

For those with younger infants, it’s helpful to begin early putting baby down for naps in different rooms of the house, once or twice a week.  If you have a portable bassinet or portable crib, that’s great, but a playpen works well too, as well as a stroller that can fold down flat for napping.  Once baby is too big for the bassinet, you can still use the playpen for this purpose.

Once your baby is about 6 months old or older, there will be a bit more re-training involved.  Some find it helpful to start with the nighttime sleep in the playpen, others choose naps – the idea is to pick what suits your family best and begin to help your little one work through learning this new skill of falling asleep elsewhere besides his crib. Try starting by placing his playpen or portable crib in his room next to his crib and using it for sleep for a couple of nights or naps in a row.  Once he’s got that down, try moving it into another room of the house, for his naps for a day.  Once he’s fine with napping in it where ever it happens to be, he can move back to his crib, but have him take a nap in the portable crib now and again (once or twice a week) so that it will still feel familiar to him when you do need to use it away from home.

What are you celebrating this Memorial Day weekend? I am sure that you will be celebrating a three day weekend. You will probably be celebrating the coming of summer (at least those of us in the Northwest.) What I am wondering, is when I mention Memorial Day do you think of the purpose for this holiday?

Memorial Day, formerly called Decoration Day, dates back to May 30, 1868 when it was enacted to honor Union soldiers that died in the Civil War. The 30th of May was set aside as a time to visit and decorate the grave to honor those that had fallen. “Many people observe this holiday by visiting cemeteries and memorials. A national moment of remembrance takes place at 3 p.m. Eastern Time. Another tradition is to fly the flag of the United States at half-staff from dawn until noon local time. Volunteers often place American flags on each gravesite at National Cemeteries. Many Americans also use Memorial Day to honor other family members who have died.” (www.wikipedia.com, Memorial Day)

It was after World War I that the commemoration was expanded to include all fallen soldiers from any war or military action. The alternative name, Memorial Day, was first used in 1882 and would be more commonly used after World War II. It became the official name by Federal Law in 1967. The Uniform Holiday Bill passed on June 28, 1968 moved Memorial Day (President’s Day and Veterans Day) to a fixed Monday to allow for a three day weekend. Memorial Day has been celebrated on the last Monday of May since the law took effect in 1971.

As we consider the significance of Memorial Day (and several other National Holidays) for the follower of Jesus, it is hard to find a Biblical parallel; however, the Scripture do have much to say about “remembering” the past. In each of the passages that come to mind, we are called to remember God’s provision and deliverance (Deuteronomy 8 and Psalm 106), and even the leaders who have modeled a Godly life (Hebrews 13:7). We also know that all of the Old Testament Feasts served as a reminder of Jehovah’s provision in the past while pointing to a future fulfillment in the coming Messiah. Even the New Testament celebration of the Lord ’s Table (based on the Passover feast) remembers the work of Christ on the Cross while looking forward to His return (1 Corinthians 11:26). And in the seventh verse of Romans 13 the Bible also speaks of the importance for you as a follower of Christ to participate in holidays like Memorial and Veteran days. “”Pay to all what is owed to them: taxes to whom taxes are owed, revenue to whom revenue is owed, respect to whom respect is owed, honor to whom honor is owed.” Romans 13:7

The purpose for this three day weekend is not to celebrate the beginning of summer, or even a time to get away, but to remember those whom have given their lives for our great country. You can honor those whom have given their lives by offering a prayer of thanks at one of your family meal times. It would be appropriate to send an email to a military widow(er), or parent, thanking them for the sacrifice of their spouse/ child. It would be even better to take a family field trip Monday to visit a local veterans’ cemetery. Memorial Day is a time to remember those that have given their lives for our country.

-Pastor Joe Parkinson

Anne Marie Ezzo says, “After reading Pastor Joe’s article on ‘fear’, it made me think about how often we, especially as parents can operate out of fear. Fear that our children won’t love us if we have boundaries or need to correct them. Fear that ‘what if I’m not doing it right?’ Oh, the list of ‘what ifs’ can be so long, it can immobilize us from doing what is right before God.  2 Timothy 1:7 says , “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of love, power and a sound mind.” Some translations read: ’self-control’ … there is that word again! The very thing as parents we work so diligently at with our children, as a child of God, we need to exercise that as well. Plus as Pastor Joe shares … “there is no fear in love” … we want our children to love us, so we can demonstrate what perfect love is to them, by exercising that ‘love, power & self-control’ the Lord has given us. Be encouraged, keep pressing on and yes, in ‘due season you will reap a beautiful harvest’ … enjoy the following:”

Does fear keep you from being everything that God wants you to be?  If you are like most people, your answer would be yes.  The only difference between us would be the degree of fear that limits each of us.  The Encarta Dictionary uses four phrases to define fear:  feelings of anxiety; frightening thoughts; reverence and worry.  It is the fourth phrase that the Apostle John addresses in his letter.  John reminds us of our need to grow in our understanding of God’s love for us.

We need to begin by saying that not all fear is bad or even sinful.  The emotion of fear is a God given emotion that heightens our senses and awareness in situations of anticipated danger.  The attitude of fear, one of reverence, is also good as it is used in the Bible to describe our attitude toward God.  John is concerned with the fourth type of fear, that of worry. One of the biggest barriers in the Christian life is this last type of fear. This type of fear in many ways is the opposite of faith (trust).  While faith sees whatcan be done, fear focuses on what cannot!

The Bible warns the follower of Christ about this barrier.  The writer of Proverbs warns us against being controlled by what others think, rather than what God thinks.  This is called the fear of man.  “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” Proverbs 29:25 The apostle Paul warns us against the cousin of fear, worry, which encourages followers of Christ to pray.  “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6 John warns the follower of Christ not to compromise their special relationship with Jesus Christ.  Unfortunately, too many followers of Christ allow fear to limit their relationship with God.  John writes, “There is no fear in love.” 1 John 4:18 The literal word order in this sentence is “fear there is not in love.” The beauty and power of what John is trying to get us to understand is that if you are a born again Christian you are loved by God and have nothing to fear!  John continues in verse 18, “But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 John 4:18

Fear manifests its control in our lives in a number of different ways.  The obvious is when it keeps us from living by faith.  The times that we are called to trust that God will go with us yet we refuse because we are not sure that we can trust God.  Fear can also cause us to overload our schedules because we are trying to make everyone happy, especially God.  Fear is also at work when there is no satisfaction in our service because we feel it is not good enough.  Fear can rob us of the joy of being ourselves because we are always restrained by what others might think.  Fear also keeps us from saying “No” because of how others will think of us.

The antidote is to immerse yourself in God’s love for you.  It is only through a proper understanding of your relationship with God that you can, as John writes, drive fear out of your life.  If you are struggling with fear, can I encourage you to take a moment and prayerfully read I John 4:9-19.  As you read these verses, notice how much God loves you!

-Pastor Joe Parkinson



Nearly every week, I get a question similar to the one below:

“It seems like every time my newborn is just about to fall asleep, he hits himself in the face and wakes himself up.  I’ve tried swaddling him, but I when I try this, he works himself out of it and the crying just gets worse.”

One of the common culprits to good sleep training, in the early months, is the “startle reflex.”  You have probably seen this in your own baby when he is just about ready to drift off to sleep and suddenly his little arms flail up and he wakes himself up.  This can also happen in the middle of the nap when baby is passing from one sleep cycle to the next.  Swaddling can often help with this issue.

To be most effective, you need to practice getting a good swaddle that is difficult to “wiggle” out of.

Try using an over-sized, lightweight, baby blanket.  Since it’s often hard to find one that is large enough, I made all of mine by just taking a very large piece of baby flannel and hemming the edges.  It needs to be large enough so that you cross his arms across his chest and then wrap  him up, from the arms down, like a little burrito.  Usually 2 to 2  1/2 times around is enough to keep the best escape artists wrapped up.  Now, this isn’t going to work well if you have a little one who likes to suck his fingers or thumb, but at least give the swaddling a try with one arm secured and see if that helps.